Oh how we looked down our noses at others when we were in the depths of our addiction. Feeling superior was a way for us to live with ourselves, with the destructive and hurtful things we did. We were able to accept and tolerate our behavior when we criticized and condemned others for their actions. It gave us another excuse to not take responsibility for our own actions. We became experts at finding the character defects of those around us. AA has a saying, "there but for the grace of G-d go I". We are no better and no worse than any other addict. We all share the same illness; we all have found that we were powerless and could not control our compulsive sexual acting out. It is the group's commitment to not judge fellow addicts among us who are striving for sobriety that encourages that first step a newcomer takes to bring him to our rooms. No matter what our choice of acting out behavior was, we all felt degraded and completely demoralized. A brother with great wisdom compares our addiction to a highway where the final destination is our complete and utter destruction. We have all gotten on or off the highway at one time or another. The only difference between each of us is what exit we took. Let us never forget that we all were a newcomer at one time and we have all experienced the terror that we were the sickest one in the room.
Let us not judge each other but embrace each other and accept the strength fellowship brings each of us - whether we are "up" or we are "down".
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